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When teenage girls share stories about "dating" much older men, there's often a common thread: they felt they were exceptional — uniquely mature, specially chosen, or deeply understood by these adult men. It's only with the hindsight of adulthood that many now recognize these "relationships" for what they truly were: predatory situations where grown men exploited the vulnerability and inexperience of teenage girls. These dynamics persist, in part, because society has long framed romantic attention from older men as flattering rather than alarming — especially for girls still forming their identities.
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It's a harmful narrative, and one we need to keep challenging. After we published previous stories from the BuzzFeed Community, even more women reached out to share their own experiences — often for the first time. Several expressed relief in realizing they weren’t alone, and reflected on how long it can take to fully process what happened. Below are 25 deeply personal stories about how older men groom, manipulate, and take advantage of teenage girls — and the lasting impact those experiences can leave behind: Warning: These stories include mention of sexual assault and abuse. 1. "There was a guy who hung out outside of my old ALL-GIRLS high school (he was 23 years old). When I first started high school, there was a rumor going around that he dates all the 'hot girls.' Being really young, and stupid, and insecure, I was extremely flattered when he wanted to date me. It didn't work out because I wouldn't have sex with him, so he moved on to the next one. and the next one. and the next one." Littleny / Getty Images/iStockphoto. 2. "I was sexting and sent a picture of myself in a bra to an older man. As a child from a dysfunctional home, the attention was exciting and addicting, and I felt so 'mature.' At 16, I ended up dating a 19-year-old — questionable maybe, but I'm grateful that I didn't seek out a deeper relationship with a much, much older man." "It terrifies me for the young girls who are growing up in a more digital-based era than what I was in. With Snapchat, Instagram, TikTok, and everybody having a cellphone now, it makes it so much easier to have 'secret relationships' like I did." 3. "I was 18, a freshman in college, and he was 36. I thought I was so cool for having an older boyfriend. What I realize now, at 34, is that I wasn’t cool, he was just creepy. He would introduce me to his friends as his 18-year-old girlfriend. Every time, he would mention my age." Nico_blue / Getty Images/iStockphoto. "Neither he nor any of his friends had anything in common with me. I felt so insecure because they were actual adults, and I wasn’t even old enough to go to a bar." 4. "I was 16, and a friend of my mom's was 29. He stalked me all over the place, and I thought he was creepy AF, but my parents kept saying how much of a nice guy he was and that I should give him a chance. One date was enough." 5. "When I was 17, I met a man who was 30. He quickly gained my trust and pushed himself into my life as the one I should turn to for everything and the only one who really understood me. Whilst we were 'friends,' he would list the reasons why anyone my own age was too immature for me to date and how they couldn't give me the freedom and responsibility I apparently needed. To his friends, I was some joke prize. They'd clap him on the back for having a really young girlfriend. He soon got me pregnant and stuck in a toxic and abusive relationship. He then played on my age as to why I didn't understand what real relationships were like. He made me think I couldn't leave him because if I did, it proved that I was the child he thought I was, who couldn't handle an adult relationship." "He cut me off from family and friends. Again, he'd use their immaturity as a reason to get rid of them — despite him being just as, if not more, immature. He would apologize after being abusive, prey on my emotions, and pretend to cry only to carry on the abuse as soon as the dust had settled. I finally got out, but it took me until my 20s — when he was nearing 40 — to realize how much of a hold he had over me, how he had groomed me for this when I was too young to understand what I was getting into, and how bad this was." —Anonymous, United Kingdom. 6. "When I was 16, I bagged groceries at my neighborhood grocery store. Some dude came in and flirted with me. Eventually, he asked me out, so I told him I was 16. His response was, 'You’re really mature for your age, and 26 isn’t that much older than 16.' My teenage self (along with my then-underdeveloped frontal lobe) completely agreed with that statement. I got into a huge fight with my parents when they (rightfully) refused to let me date him." @jansmartino / Getty Images. "Clearly, they didn’t understand how mature I was, and slamming my bedroom door while blaring 'You Oughta Know' was the way to prove my maturity. At 34, I frequently remind my parents of this fact and thank them for not letting me date the creep!" 7. "When I was 16, I met a 22-year-old. We worked at the same place. When he first found out my age after a date, he said he needed to think about being with me, and I thought I convinced him I was mature enough.